54 posts by Brian Becker

Are You a Dandelion Farmer? by Jeff Becker

When I was about 12 years old I started mowing lawns. I think I earned $10 per lawn, and was barely strong enough to push the lawnmower. At that time I my life my primary goal was to get the lawn cut as fast as possible…not worrying about the details. The first few lawns I cut were so bad my dad followed up after me to re-mow some of the yards. At this time of year, at least where I grew up, there were lots of dandelions in the grass. When you’re about to run over a dandelion you have ...

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Daddy, I hate your job!

When I was in my late 20's I had a job that required me to travel 10 to 15 days a month. There was no way that I could be a good husband and father with that much travel. That was a critical developmental time for my son, Jeff, who was three at the time. My absence put a lot of extra strain on Kim to be the sole parent. I would come home after having spent four or five days on the road, and just wanted to be with her and the kids. Understandably, she wanted and needed to "talk to big ...

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From Hopelessness to Healing

This week's blog is found on the Proven Men Ministries blog page. I'm honored to have my story featured this week. I'm also humbled as the blog tells the very unpleasant side of porn addiction. But...it also tells how the hardest day of my life was also the most important. In addition, it's a story of forgiveness and healing in my own family, for which I'm eternally grateful. I hope you'll read this, and please forward it to anyone you think may benefit from my story or the resources of ...

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7 Questions That Will Turn Failure into Awesome

Over the years Jeff and I have had numerous conversations about the importance of winning and losing. We are a society that watches the scoreboard and cares about wins and losses. But games are not really won on game day. Games are won in the off-season working on strength, agility, resilience, and speed. Games are won by watching game films. Games are won at before and after school practices. Games are won during the times, on and off the court, when you mentally and emotionally have ...

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Run Through the Tape – a Lesson for Life and COVID-19

My friend Roger was an outstanding sprinter on his high school track team. He ran the anchor leg of the 4 x 400-yard relay team. At one particular track meet, his relay was the last event of the day. If they won the relay, the school would also win the entire meet. The first three legs of the relay were very close. Roger received the “anchor leg” baton in second place, but was able to sprint past his opponent to a comfortable lead with quite a bit of track left until the finish line. ...

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What a Difference a Day Makes – 5 Tips to Stay Safe and Connected

Stress is caused by uncertainty, uncontrollable situations, and sustained volatility according a stress researcher from Harvard University. The research I’ve read finds that the “big three” elements that cause stress are when “family, finances and/or health” are threatened. It appears that all of these elements are in the bulls eye right now, and it’s almost certainly going to get worse before it gets better. Who could have imagined the lightning speed at which the world has ...

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The Top Ten Lessons from Art of War to Battle COVID-19

The Art of War by Sun Tzu was written more than 2,500 years ago. His lessons are still employed by many leaders today. Some historians believe that if the political and military leaders of the 20th and 21st centuries had studied and applied Sun Tzu’s lessons that Vietnam, the Korean War, the Bay of Pigs, and that World Wars I and II may have been avoided. At the very least, these major conflicts would have had significantly different outcomes, whereby millions of young lives would have been ...

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#LeadershipMatters – 5 COVID-19 Tips and 1 Vital Leadership Lesson

This blog has some helpful information, and ends with one vitally important leadership lesson. For those who believe that everything that President Trump says is true, when he said finally said late this week that "the Conronavirus is serious"…believe him! Be it two months late, he finally responded to the Coronavirus pandemic appropriately. Here’s what I believe to be helpful information. Earlier this week I heard Trump say these things in a press conference: “Coronavirus is like ...

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The Opposite of Love is not Hate…Well then What is It?

At Jeff’s wedding last October his best man, Dan Halter, asked a great question. “Do you remember the moment you fell in love?” He went on to explain that most of us don’t, and that the reality is is that love begins and stays because of endless little actions that demonstrate that you love that person. Making their coffee, picking up the clothes, calling home to check in “just because”, and on and on and on the list goes. My wise friend, Herb, once said, “The opposite of ...

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Special Tender Lion Interview Feature

If you’re a new reader of our blog, Tender Lions is about building the vital relationship between father and son. Last week marked the one-year anniversary of the publication of Tender Lions. The book, among other things, contains interviews with numerous men that Jeff and I believe have valuable perspectives on their relationship with their dad. What follows is the interview I did with Oscar Benavides, a true example of what it means to be a tender lion. Oscar is a great example of ...

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