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Special Tender Lions Interview with Pastor James Brooks

This week's blog is a brief interview with a man who was instrumental in Jeff's life when my relationship with him was fractured. James provided stability, encouragement and tough advice to Jeff when he didn't want to listen to me. Thank you Pastor James for your wisdom and investment of time in my son when it was sorely needed! James is a husband and father of two daughters. He's also the pastor at Harmony Community Church, (North Lawndale) Chicago & Chief Ministry Officer at ...

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Indiscriminate Killer

As I look out my window this morning it's easy to think that everything is right is with the world. The birds are singing, the sun is shining, and the breeze is gentle. And…the invisible COVID-19 virus is as deadly as anything I've experienced in my lifetime. And it's indiscriminate. It doesn’t care whether or not you believe it’s contagious, dangerous and deadly. There are two things I want to model for my son (daughter, grandchild) today. First, it's that indiscriminate loss is real ...

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Insights on Life, Leadership and the Pandemic – Jay Frost interviews Brian

Recently I was interviewed by Jay Frost, one of the leading development experts in the United States. Jay hosts an educational series for nonprofits called "Unbound" provided by DonorSearch.net. I was invited to do a webinar for nonprofit leaders recently and then Jay extended the offer to interview me on their Masterminds Series about my thoughts on leadership in general and the pandemic. Go here for the 25 minute interview. "DonorSearch provides accurate and actionable information ...

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Where Are The Dads on Father’s Day?

For more than a decade I was Senior Vice President at a nonprofit that made seed grants to startup organizations. Our grantees were trying to solve some of the toughest societal problems like domestic violence, gangs, broken families, hunger, and homelessness. Each year we received hundreds of proposals but because of our modest size, we could only fund about 20-30% of those requesting help. One day I was feeling the negative effects after having read dozens of difficult proposals. ...

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Intentional Dad-Interview with Dennis Gorski

Tender Lions contains interviews with six men that Jeff and I believe are extraordinary dads. One of them is Dennis Gorski. For context if someone reads this a year or more from now, we're in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic which has taken the lives of over 100,000 to date, an economic meltdown that might rival the great depression, and there are racial protests happening in almost every mid-sized and major city in America as a reaction to the killing of George Floyd by a Minneapolis ...

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Tender Lions…Rise Up

At times like this I have to remind myself to be a Tender Lion. For those who are new readers, in February 2019 my son, Jeff and I published Tender Lions: Building the Vital Relationships Between Father and Son. A tender lion is both tender and tough, soft and strong, caring and courageous…and not only knows when to use which trait, but willingly does so. The tender lion leads wherever they are…in their business, community, church, and especially their home. And their action is ...

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Are You a Dandelion Farmer? by Jeff Becker

When I was about 12 years old I started mowing lawns. I think I earned $10 per lawn, and was barely strong enough to push the lawnmower. At that time I my life my primary goal was to get the lawn cut as fast as possible…not worrying about the details. The first few lawns I cut were so bad my dad followed up after me to re-mow some of the yards. At this time of year, at least where I grew up, there were lots of dandelions in the grass. When you’re about to run over a dandelion you have ...

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Daddy, I hate your job!

When I was in my late 20's I had a job that required me to travel 10 to 15 days a month. There was no way that I could be a good husband and father with that much travel. That was a critical developmental time for my son, Jeff, who was three at the time. My absence put a lot of extra strain on Kim to be the sole parent. I would come home after having spent four or five days on the road, and just wanted to be with her and the kids. Understandably, she wanted and needed to "talk to big ...

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From Hopelessness to Healing

This week's blog is found on the Proven Men Ministries blog page. I'm honored to have my story featured this week. I'm also humbled as the blog tells the very unpleasant side of porn addiction. But...it also tells how the hardest day of my life was also the most important. In addition, it's a story of forgiveness and healing in my own family, for which I'm eternally grateful. I hope you'll read this, and please forward it to anyone you think may benefit from my story or the resources of ...

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7 Questions That Will Turn Failure into Awesome

Over the years Jeff and I have had numerous conversations about the importance of winning and losing. We are a society that watches the scoreboard and cares about wins and losses. But games are not really won on game day. Games are won in the off-season working on strength, agility, resilience, and speed. Games are won by watching game films. Games are won at before and after school practices. Games are won during the times, on and off the court, when you mentally and emotionally have ...

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