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The Top Ten Lessons from Art of War to Battle COVID-19

The Art of War by Sun Tzu was written more than 2,500 years ago. His lessons are still employed by many leaders today. Some historians believe that if the political and military leaders of the 20th and 21st centuries had studied and applied Sun Tzu’s lessons that Vietnam, the Korean War, the Bay of Pigs, and that World Wars I and II may have been avoided. At the very least, these major conflicts would have had significantly different outcomes, whereby millions of young lives would have been ...

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#LeadershipMatters – 5 COVID-19 Tips and 1 Vital Leadership Lesson

This blog has some helpful information, and ends with one vitally important leadership lesson. For those who believe that everything that President Trump says is true, when he said finally said late this week that "the Conronavirus is serious"…believe him! Be it two months late, he finally responded to the Coronavirus pandemic appropriately. Here’s what I believe to be helpful information. Earlier this week I heard Trump say these things in a press conference: “Coronavirus is like ...

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The Opposite of Love is not Hate…Well then What is It?

At Jeff’s wedding last October his best man, Dan Halter, asked a great question. “Do you remember the moment you fell in love?” He went on to explain that most of us don’t, and that the reality is is that love begins and stays because of endless little actions that demonstrate that you love that person. Making their coffee, picking up the clothes, calling home to check in “just because”, and on and on and on the list goes. My wise friend, Herb, once said, “The opposite of ...

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Special Tender Lion Interview Feature

If you’re a new reader of our blog, Tender Lions is about building the vital relationship between father and son. Last week marked the one-year anniversary of the publication of Tender Lions. The book, among other things, contains interviews with numerous men that Jeff and I believe have valuable perspectives on their relationship with their dad. What follows is the interview I did with Oscar Benavides, a true example of what it means to be a tender lion. Oscar is a great example of ...

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Let’s Just All Get Along!

While the outcome of the presidential impeachment process has been, relatively speaking, predictable from the onset, people’s varying reactions have fascinated me. What’s most amazing is how (seemingly) intelligent adults can observe the exact same situation and have polar-opposite opinions. Here’s my theory. We are losing our ability (or desire) to actually try to connect with, understand and care about “our neighbor.” Social media, honest to goodness real fake news, and giant ...

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Why I Respect Kobe Bryant

This past Sunday much of the world was rocked when we learned that Kobe Bryant, arguably one of the best basketball players of all time, was killed along with his daughter and seven other people in a helicopter crash. My wife, daughter and son all have basketball “in their veins” having been serious basketball players in school. They each have their “Kobe stories.” If you watched much (or any) basketball in the last 20 years, you probably have a Kobe story, too. This week the news ...

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Welcome Your Wounds

Recently, I heard an interview with Father Joseph Boyle, CEO of Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles. He’s a man (and a priest) who’s ministered to and with some of the toughest young men in one of the roughest neighborhoods in the world. He told a story of a young man, “Juan”, whose mother beat him every day because he reminded her of Juan’s father. When he was about nine-years old, she took him to Mexico and gave him to an orphanage, saying that “I found this boy on the street.” ...

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Time Matters!

Are you familiar with this famous quote from the man on his deathbed, “Gee, I wish I’d spent more time at the office.” Of course, not! That’s because no one ever said such a thing. Life is full of examples of those in their last days saying things like, “I wish I had spent more time with loved ones.” As we leave one decade and enter a new one, I’ve done some reflecting about 2019, and visioning for 2020. What does matter? Time matters. Today is not a rehearsal. We will not get ...

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Finding Gratitude or Trapping Monkeys is Easy…or Not

In order to trap a monkey (assuming you want to), all you must do is place some nuts in a bottle that's attached to something immovable. The mouth of the jar has to be big enough for the monkey to place his hand in it, but small enough that once the monkey grabs the nuts by making a fist, the fist is too large to escape the bottle. When the monkey’s curiosity gets the best of him, he reaches for the nuts. And as long as his fist is closed, he's trapped. I was just like the monkey, holding ...

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I Surrender

When I was in fourth grade I fell off my bike and took a really hard fall which left a gaping bloody wound on my left elbow. I was doing things that my parents definitely wouldn’t have approved of, so I hid the huge wound. Even though it was the middle of the summer I wore long-sleeved shirts so my make-shift bandages wouldn’t show. Then wound started to fester and smell. Fortunately for me, my Grandma Torbeck noticed it. I confessed to her what actually happened. She then uncovered ...

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